There are a lot of sex counsellors out there and picking the right one for you is an important part of the process.
If you would prefer a counsellor who will consistently sit quietly for hours while you recline on a chaise longue and stare at the ceiling, then we might not be the best match. It’s difficult to get my personality across in a website, so I offer a free 10 minute phone call to help your decision making process.
You can get in touch, through email or phone and we can book it into the diary, or if you’d prefer we can find a time over text message. My number is 07903 681853 and email is firstname.lastname@example.org
My goal is to help you understand what’s going on and facilitate you making the changes you want to make. To achieve that I work integratively using different counselling techniques and theories. Some sessions will be faster paced and coaching focused, others more thought provoking. This will depend on who you are, what you respond well to and how far along we are in the therapeutic process.
My strengths as a practitioner are working holistically with any presenting sexual dysfunction (seen here), but also couples who have lost their ‘mojo’ in their relationship and need to be revitalised. I work with clients who are in same or mixed sex relationships or who might not be in relationships at all. I’m a member of London Sex and Relationships Therapy – a GSRD (Gender, Sexual and Relationship Diversity – including sex workers) friendly group practice.
What to expect from a sex therapy or relationship counselling session?
I offer my clients a relaxing space where they can talk as much or as little as they like. Sex and relationship difficulties are more common than you might think. My approach is designed to encourage a dialogue. We may look at recent events or past relationships, new couple communication techniques or feeding back on any exercises I may have given you to try at home.
How Long Is a Session of Sex Therapy or Relationship Therapy?
Each counselling session lasts either 50 minutes or 75 minutes. We will have an initial session before both of us agree to work together. Most people work weekly, but the total number of sessions can vary. There’s no definitive answer to that one, but we will make a decision as to whether this is a short term or longer term work after your initial session and we will review with you as we progress.
Do You Work With Singles or People in a Relationship?
Whether you are single or in a relationship, you can attend on your own. However, if you are in a relationship it can be valuable to attend together, even if you feel only one of you is ‘the problem’. My fee is based on time, therefore the cost is the same whether I see you as a couple or as an individual. I am open to working with people who are in triads – these sessions may need to be longer.
Will I have to Take My Clothes Off During Sex Therapy?
No. Any ‘practical’ explorations take place outside of our time together.
What Do People Talk About?
Very often sex therapy is not separate from relationship therapy, and the work is intertwined – but you may want to focus on one or the other and that’s no problem.