There are a lot of sex counsellors out there and picking the right one for you is an important part of the process.
If you want someone honest, transparent and open-minded yet professional and a specialist in the field, then I might be the counsellor for you. I’m pretty down to earth, use humour where appropriate, but can also be in a deep dark place – depending on where you need to go.
If you would prefer a counsellor who will consistently sit quietly for hours while you recline on a chaise longue and stare at the ceiling, then we might not be the best match. On the flip side, clients may want me to ‘fix’ their ‘problem’ by ‘doing to’ them. It’s likely to be work somewhere in the middle there – some analysis and reflection combined with equipping you with tools to be able to be where you want to be. It’s difficult to get my personality across in a website, so I offer a free 10 minute phone call to help your decision making process.
You can get in touch through email or phone and we can book it into the diary, or if you’d prefer we can find a time over text message. My number is 07903 681853 and email is Clare @ sexualhealinguk. com (no spaces, just trying to fool spambots).
My goal is to help you understand what’s going on and facilitate you making the changes you want to make. To achieve that I work integratively using different counselling techniques and theories. There is no set starting and stopping place – it will depend on you, what work you have done before, and how you find changing. Some sessions will be faster paced and coaching focused, others more thought provoking. At some stage in the work, you are likely to have behavioural work to try between sessions, so you’ll need to make some time for that in your life when that comes. This will depend on who you are, what you respond to and how far along we are in the therapeutic process.
My strengths as a practitioner are working holistically with any presenting sexual difficulty or issue, often known in the medical world as a ‘sexual dysfunction,’ but also couples who have lost their ‘mojo’ in their relationship and need to be revitalised. I find that at the heart of my work is the relationship with yourself – whether we are working on you getting into a relationship, managing in a longer term relationship or working through sexual or relational trauma . Sex therapy, I find is rarely just about sex. It’s a jigsaw puzzle of factors to explore. Shall we sit down together and put some pieces together?
What to expect from a sex therapy or relationship counselling session?
I offer my clients a relaxing space where they can talk as much or as little as they like. Sex and relationship difficulties are more common than you might think. My approach is designed to encourage a dialogue. We may look at recent events or past relationships, new couple communication techniques or feeding back on any exercises I may have given you to try at home.
How Long Is a Session of Sex Therapy or Relationship Therapy?
Most commonly the length of ongoing sessions are 75 or 90 minutes. We will have an initial session (likely 75 minutes) before we agree to work together, and we will get an idea of how it might be best to work. Most people work weekly, but the total number of sessions can vary. There’s no definitive answer to that one, but I’m happy to chat about whether this is a short term or longer term work after your initial session and we will review with you as we progress. Some people want to do intensive work over a shorter period of time / have a certain budget to work with. I try to be creative to what you need. Let’s start the conversation.
Do You Work With Singles or People in a Relationship?
Whether you are single or in a relationship, you can attend on your own. However, if you are in a relationship it can be valuable to attend together, even if you feel only one of you is ‘the problem’.
Will I have to Take My Clothes Off During Sex Therapy?
No. Any ‘practical’ explorations take place outside of our time together.
Do you work online?
Yes, I do!